Social Anxiety and Insecurity

Meeting people, going to a party, eating in front of others, walking in public can become very scary and challenging situations for people that have social anxiety. It is known that millions of Americans suffer from this disorder and need professional help.

People with this disorder have an intense fear and insecurity of being judged and watch by others. What seems something very simple for any other person for them becomes a nightmare.

There is a clear link between social anxiety and insecurity, people that are insecure are more likely to have this disorder. The opposite side is people that are confident and can be in any social situation comfortably.

However just because a person is insecure it doesnt mean that he will have social phobia, in fact there are many people that are very insecure inside but are not constantly afraid of being watch or talking with people, they are insecure in certain situations with authorities and with new people.

The problem is that in people that is not confident social anxiety is more easily trigger. For example if you are an insecure person you dont talk too much, you are shy and people from school start to scrutinize you and tell you bad things about your body image and embarrass you in front of others, then social anxiety can appear and you might not feel comfortable in any social situation again for fear of being judged and scrutinize by them.

That is one possible cause for social phobia, however there are many other causes like genetics, chemical unbalance in the brain, the environment, cultural influences, a trauma, etc.

You should learn some strategies to cope with social anxiety and also take some treatments to help you get over it. There are no quick solutions but there are certain things that you can do to reduce your anxiety, depression and insecurities.

here are some things that you can do:

* Read some motivational books and success stories from people that have achieved great things, this will inspire you and make you feel more confident.
* Learn relaxation techniques like deep breathing and muscle relaxation this will help you reduce your anxiety in a social situation.
* The next time you are in a social situation and you feel anxious, take a look around and see that almost no one is actually looking at you, they are just like you and are in their own world.
* When you start to get anxious ask your self in the dangerous situation is real or is just an irrational fear. This can help you reduce your fear and recognize that there is nothing threatening.
* Take some communication courses to get communications skills, this can really help you be more confident and eliminate insecurities of not knowing what to say. You can learn how to approach people, how to make conversations, how to be physically confident and much more.
* If you find that is very difficult to meet new people because you dont know what to say or how to approach them, try to find people that have your same hobbies and interest, this way it will be much easier to talk to them because you like the same things.

One last thing that i want to recommend you is to take a treatment to eliminate your phobia, the best way is psychotherapy. You can take a Behavioral therapy where the psychotherapist will help you identify your fears in a give social situation and help you eliminate those irrational fears.

When you start to realize that your fears and anxiety are irrational and that you can change your negative beliefs you insecurities will start to disappear.